Nitu Sisterhood in Motherhood
Nitu - Sisterhood in Motherhood
Sometimes motherhood can be quite lonely and overwhelming. It´s funny actually, because you are surrounded by people. And if these people are still really little, then it comes with lots of noise, and demands, and big emotions that are tugging at your resources. I mean, do you sometimes feel all touched out at the end of the day? Or maybe you didn´t know you can love someone to your core and want to run away from it all, all in the same day? And who can you be real to about this? You shouldn´t struggle with something that has been done since the beginning of time, right?
I think about this a lot and wonder how it might have been a little easier, since at the beginning of time, there was a lot more community around to share the load. Big families watching over little ones, someone cooking, someone cleaning, someone to talk to. This community aspect has gotten quite lost in today´s busy world. Don´t get me wrong, I am super grateful for my washing machine, the dishwasher and running hot water, but telling someone you had a rough day, and all you accomplished was re-washing the load of laundry because it had gotten forgotten in the washer for a couple of days doesn´t sound glorious.
It is so easy to lose oneself in the daily humdrum of meals, tears, laundry, even if it is sprinkled with giggles, laughter and cuddles. Yes, those moments are so precious and make it worth it in the first place, but it doesn´t mean, that it isn´t also exhausting.
Seriously, when was the last time, you had a hot cup of coffee in peace and quiet, didn´t feel like going shopping was a mini vacation or recognized the woman in the mirror?
Now, if you add ADHD to the list, we entered a whole other universe it seems. “Children need consistency” they say, and you can´t remember if you have brushed your teeth in the morning. Schedules are elusive and you can drop any established habit like a hot potato when it´s not interesting anymore. Every day looks somewhat the same already, but adding the fact, that you don´t naturally keep track makes it all feel like bliss in one moment and a swallowing black hole the next.
It makes motherhood lonely and reaching out for help, if not pointless, at the very least, very hard.
What if you were surrounded by women who get it? By women, who live the same day you live, and ask the same questions? What if someone has a hearing ear, or a piece of advice, that might help you through your day? Alleviate the struggle and break through the feeling of being stuck.
What if there are self-care strategies that actually work for you? Not someone telling you to take a hot bath after a long day, because you deserve it (and you know it´s just going to end with kids banging the door wondering what you are doing 😊 ), but instead teach you how to work with who you are, e.g. giving you permission to drop your shoes when you walk in the door, just put a basket there and done (if that works for you).
There is a huge disconnect between what we hear self-care is and what we really need to take care of ourselves.
I have AuDHD and have 5 kids – most of them diagnosed with ADHD, or autism, or both, some dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia mixed in, and as you can imagine, our house functions very differently from what most would consider the norm. I struggled for many years, to the point of my back giving out over all the stress I was experiencing. It was during that time that I realized I was in serious need of putting myself back on the list. I started a 30 day “ain´t feeling it ain´t doing it” experiment, moved over 300 lbs. of stuff out of our apartment and began a self-care journey that gave me a system and tools to work with myself. Do I still have ADHD? Yes. Do I still struggle at times? Yes. I cannot change your brain, but I can teach you how to get out of survival and into daily enjoyment, going from guilt to freedom, and from putting-out-fires-chaos to enjoying the life you created.
I invite you to join Nitu. We are a community. We understand we need each other, and we need to take care of ourselves so we can take care of others, whether that is our children or people around us.
The Nitu community
Gifts of the Nitu community
1. place to grow
2. bite size content
3. you feel seen and heard
What is included
Each month comes with a specific topic with questions, exercises and prompts that will guide us through the year. All designed to discover who you are, how you work and how you can use that to take care of yourself.
Each four-month session includes:
Community: You will have access to other like-minded, absent minded, hyper-focused women, where you can ask your questions, share about your interests, and most importantly will be heard and seen. Though we start on FB we will soon be moving into our own little corner of the internet, so you can truly focus on what moves you forward during this season. There will be facilitated opportunities to foster relationships with one another.
Education: I will guide us through the year, loosely based on the season, with exercises and worksheets to help you think through each module, see where changes can be made and measure what is going well or not so well.
Weekly office hour Connection calls and coaching: Once a week, I will be available live for questions and coaching on a live call. This call will be recorded, so even if you can´t attend in person, you can still get your questions answered.
Rest weeks: Energy management is a cornerstone of good self-care. For me to provide you with ongoing guidance I know I need to be able to rest and rejuvenate. For you to integrate what you learnt, have fun, attend to all that life brings with it, there needs to be down time. Those rest times will be mostly around holidays, but at least once a session.
Occasional guest speakers: As the community grows there will be occasional guest speakers to bring their perspective and expertise to enrich your lives.
Body doubling sessions: Can´t get started on your dishes, need help tackling the pile of unopened letters? We will have regular body doubling sessions in the community, where it is all about getting things done with the help of each other.
Time and Energy Commitment
Nitu is designed to make an impact on your daily life. Change is what happens when we take information and couple it with thought, consideration and ultimately play. It´s in the daily trying of new things, new ideas, new routines, in the stumbling, asking for help and trying again. This takes time. You should bring about an hour for reading materials, doing homework, and engaging in the community, plus an additional hour for our calls, which you can attend live or on a replay at your convenience. I do understand your life is full, busy and most likely interrupted, so homework is designed to fit into 20 minutes increments – no essays required unless you truly enjoy journaling, which is an excellent tool for growth. We will have weeks of rest incorporated into each session – so you can integrate what you learned, enjoy holidays without missing out on material, and just rest and play.
Nitu is for you if:
You are a mom with ADHD, and it doesn´t matter if you have an official diagnosis, are self-diagnosed or just have a hunch
You are ready to try out new strategies and routines
You are happy to share a piece of your life with others who might be struggling with something you have already conquered
You are willing to commit to up to 6 hours per month to go through material, apply what you learned and help others in the community – we will have breaks for rest, integration and holidays.
Join
BECOME A FOUNDING MEMBER
$27 for founders' members - Monthly price
First 10 people. You are getting in on a discounted rate to help me get this community off the ground. That means bearing with me through technical set up, giving feedback and testimonials. This rate will be grandfathered in.
After that:
GET STARTED WITH ONE SESSION $268 (ONE-TIME PAYMENT)
A session – 4 months of access to the community for 268$
That equals $67 monthly
2 MONTHS REE WHEN YOU JOIN FOR A WHOLE YEAR $670 (ONE-TIME PAYMENT)
INDIVIDUAL SUPPORT (10 COACHING SESSIONS) AND ONE SESSION $1777 (ONE-TIME PAYMENT)
For four months, you will have access to the community and my support on your individual situation with 10 coaching calls, homework, Voxer availability, accountability tailored to who you are and what you need.
To JOIN
Contact Me
While I am in the process of getting the community off the ground, we are going old-school, low tech (that means some buttons don´t work the way I would like them to ;) )
To become a member, send me an email!
Email me at nitucircles@gmail.com
I am looking forward to creating a community
with you and for you!
Nitu - Sisterhood in Motherhood
Because motherhood in community is just better
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